Look beyond the “LGBTQ+ specialist” label.
Several people say the fastest shortcut is to start with trauma therapists, because they are used to exploring painful feelings without pushing an agenda. “Trauma therapists are a good start… state that your need is for detransition and trauma treatment and explicitly state that you are not seeking help with trans identity affirmation.” – L82Desist source [citation:3a9022bc-18e3-463f-a80f-a4a0aa6505e5]

Use Psychology Today’s filters to exclude “transgender allied.”
Check the boxes for “Online Therapy,” “Lesbian,” and “Feminist,” then deliberately skip any profile that lists “Transgender” under Specialties or “Transgender Allied” under Communities. “I’m looking for ones that do not have ‘transgender’ as a specialty… in the Community section.” – desister_usa source [citation:40580d32-7bc0-4ac1-9378-6f8eaa9f5103]

Ask the exact question in the free 15-minute consultation.
Make it the first thing you say: “I’m seeking help with detransition and trauma, not affirmation of a trans identity—do you have any conflict of interest with that?” Their reaction tells you everything. “It literally has to be one of the first questions you ask… if they get defensive then you leave after the first appointment.” – lumpydumpy22222 source [citation:37edafee-93c6-488d-b9cd-6cc167402dcb]

Choose virtual sessions so you can “walk out” safely.
Tele-health widens your choices and lets you end the call instantly if the therapist starts affirming instead of listening. “Virtual appointments… made me feel more comfortable knowing I could easily leave my first appointment if I felt unheard.” – MangoProud3126 source [citation:a5f918cb-50c6-4c1f-bb51-7ca56f4ebaf2]

You are allowed to interview therapists until you find one who respects your goal of understanding yourself without labels or medical steps. Keep the consultation short, stay honest, and remember that walking away is part of the healing process.